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Dear Abby:

Dear Abby.

My daughter was married for seven years. She has two children, 5 and 3.

She recently was divorced and has told me that she is going to live with another woman because they have decided they are lesbians and belong together.

This other woman has an 8-year-old daughter and is a successful artist. (My daughter teaches children with learning disabilities.}

I am glad that my daughter told me the truth. She said she has been fighting her lesbian tendencies since adolescence and that during her marriage she had psychotherapy and was advised to accept herself as she is

My daughter has asked me to welcome her ladyfriend into my home and to consider this woman's child my "grandchild." I want to do the right thing by my daughter, but I just can't see myself doing it graciously.

I'm very unhappy about all this, but I'm trying to act cheerful. Please help me.

Sad Mother

Dear Sad:

Unless you want to lose your daughter and. your own grandchildren, accept your daughter's ladyfriend and her child.

Both you and your daughter are fortunate to have such an open and honest relationship. Even în these enlightened times, it's all too rare.